My 2nd Blogiversary Review: Dear Twenty Something Series – Comparing Yourself to Your Previous Self


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Today is my 2nd Blogiversary so I thought it was perfect for me to share a twenty something topic that I have been thinking about for some time. Remember when I wrote a post about stop comparing yourself to others. Well here’s a follow-up to that.

Comparing yourself to your previous self can be just as bad as comparing yourself to others. Hear me out on this one. Smart Twenties knows what I’m talking about. In one of her posts she talked about how her morning routine and how it made her feel guilty for not doing things she used to do. I can agree with her on so many levels. There comes a time when things change. Change is good but can be scary.

I feel like Smart Twenties and I are on the same wavelength with our blog posts. We should collaborate in the future. I have so many ideas for Dear Twenty Something Series Topics.

For me when things change I get stressed and sometimes find myself comparing myself to my previous self. You may think what’s wrong with that? It becomes an issue when you beat yourself up about it. Remember you are not your old self. Your old self has left the building.  You can’t expect yourself to be the same person you were before. Things change, change is a sign of growth. Back in the day you were a caterpillar now embrace your wings as a butterfly.

If you are going to compare yourself to your previous self do it instead in a positive way. Tell yourself all the good things you did and look at how far you have come. You can only get better. Like I said in my introduction to my Dear Twenty Something Series post I feel like the twenties are the adult version of teenage years filled with self-doubt, uncertainty and a lot of changes going on. Feeling this way is normal and a lot of twenty somethings feel this way. Remember you are amazing, awesome and as long as you are being the best you can be you are doing something right!

So how do you feel about comparing yourself to your previous self now? What can you do to shake this feeling? I suggest looking at how you want to improve yourself and set new goals. For example, if you feel like you used to be more fit back then concentrate on becoming healthier. When you get your body moving you will feel better and become a new type of fit that is good for you now.

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My Summer Reading List + Bonus TV Show


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I’m back! How was your summer? My summer has been busy, but good. I was able to spend time with family and relax for a bit. I can’t complain. Now that things have slowed down a bit I’m ready to get back to blogging. My last post was a few months ago and now we are in the beginning of August. Where did the time go?

Since I have been busy this summer I decided to read books that will inspire me and make me think about life. What books inspire you?

My Summer Reading List:
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Playing with Printed Pants: Spring Edition


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Great minds shop alike! :-) I was inspired to share how I would wear printed pants in the spring after seeing Closet Confections past few posts wearing pants. I like the nautical feel of her outfits the past few days. After all you can’t go wrong with printed pants. Prints like polka dots, stripes, and tribal are so much fun to wear in the spring and summer. Throw on a hat, a bright lip and cute flats and your outfit is complete!

Here are three ideas for cute easy printed pants outfits:

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Choose Beautiful Door Dove Campaign #ChooseBeautiful – Beauty & Confidence from Within


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If you have followed my blog for some time you know that I’m an advocate for being positive, inspiring women and being creative. Everyday I like to read or watch something inspirational. Sometimes a bit of inspiration can put that extra spark in your day. :-)

A few months ago I shared my thoughts on the Dove #LoveYourCurls Campaign and shared my Natural Hair Curly Story. It was important for me to write this post because I know that there are girls and women that are going through confidence issues. Even though this post was about hair the heart of the post was about confidence and inner beauty.

Fast forward a few months later I came across another Dove Campaign #ChooseBeautiful. Instead of talking about embracing your curls this campaign digs deeper on the topic of feeling beautiful and confident. Even though these are short videos these Dove Campaigns make an impact. I’m a big fan of campaigns/initiatives that promote confidence inside and out for women. As women we go through a lot and it is important to see these types of messages on social media. We need to share more things like this instead of things that bring women down. Like I said my other post – confidence starts at an early age. It is our duty as women to inspire girls and inspire each other. If we don’t who will? Continue reading

DIY: Tea Cup Bookmarks


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I’m a huge tea drinker. I drink at least two cups of tea a day. My favorite teas are ginger, herbal and chai. Forget coffee give me tea! Since I like tea and I like reading I decided to combine the two for a simple DIY Project. I was thinking of ideas on how to create a template then I came across Genuine Mudpie’s blog post showing how to make DIY Tea cup bookmarks and I knew I had to make my own. This is a simple DIY to do with the family on the weekend. :-) Plus it’s perfect for your weekend reading.

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Let’s get started:

If you want to make more bookmarks check out my DIY Tassel bookmarks and DIY animal bookmarks.

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Spring Reading List II + Bonus Webseries/Podcasts


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We are finally getting a “touch” of spring weather. We get some warm days here and there, which I’m happy about – until the weather gets crazy. Just a few days ago it was snowing and cold. I’ll be happy when spring days are here to stay! In the meantime I’ll keep myself warm with a good book and ginger tea. For this spring and in honor of women’s history month I wanted to read books by women that will inspire me. :)

My Spring Reading List:

  • Playing Big: Find your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message by Tara Mohr (The Book from Smart Twenties Book Club)
  • The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl by Issa Rae
  • How to Grow Up: A Memoir by Michelle Tea
  • Rainbow in the Cloud: The Wisdom & Spirit of Maya Angelou by Maya Angelou
  • Belle: The Slave Daughter and the Lord Chief Justice by Paula Byrne

If you are looking for more book ideas check out my winter list, spring reading list and Smart Twenties Book Club!

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Dear Twenty Something Post: Reflection from Smart Twenties Fear of Getting Older Post


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Just in case you didn’t know Sam of Smart Twenties is one of my inspirations for starting my Dear Twenty Something Series. Sam welcomed me in her Smart Twenties circle and I knew that after reading her blog I had to share a bit of my advice as a twenty something. Even though I’m in my late twenties (28) I know there are some things that I want to share with you. Sam’s blog is beyond amazing and every time I read it I get inspired. If you want to learn more about Smart Twenties click here.

Last week I was going through my blogfeed and I came across her post called, Some Thoughts on My Fear of Getting Older and I knew I had to read it immediately. When I entered my mid twenties getting older was something that I often thought about. I think it all started when I turned the BIG 25 aka The Quarter Century Life Crisis Age (so I’ve heard). When I turned 25 it was a bit rough, but I got through it. (I will talk about this in another twenty something post – stay tuned!) Fast forward some years later, as a late twenty something I’m actually super excited about turning 30. I’m ready to start a new phase of my life and leave my twenties with a bang! I want to do something BIG for my 30th birthday. I’m not sure yet. Any ideas?  Continue reading

Throwback Thursday: Spring Style Inspiration from 80’s/90’s TV Show Ladies


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Since spring is around the corner I was inspired to create a Polyvore set. When I was eating lunch the other day I had an idea to create a Polyvore set inspired by 80’s/90’s TV show ladies. I like looking at these types of sets from @WearWhatUWatch and I have to thank WearWhatUWatch for the inspiration when I did my first blog post like this. Thank you WearWhatUWatch :-)

If you have followed my blog for some time you know that I’m an 80’s baby! Woo hoo! 80’s babies rock! If you are an 80’s baby comment below. :-) Another good thing about the 80’s is that there were good TV shows on air. When I’m looking for something to watch I like watching comedies with a touch of drama sprinkled in. If you want to see what I’m watching check out my winter reading list with TV bonus list.

One of my favorite 80’s/90’s shows is a A Different World and for this style inspiration I wanted to showcase looks inspired from three hit TV ladies during this time: Whitley Gilbert from A Different World, Maxine Shaw from Living Single and Clair Huxtable from The Cosby Show. I know the 80’s and 90’s had some crazy style, but I thought it would be fun to put a spin on the looks with my personal style by creating a Polyvore set.

Throwback Thursday: Spring Style Inspiration from 80’/90’s TV Show Ladies:

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#DearME What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?


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To me the 20’s are an extension of your teenage age years. Same script different cast, well at least for the early part of the 20’s. I know some of you can relate to what I’m saying. All of the ups and downs that we face during our 20’s was one of the inspirations for me to start my dear twenty something series. Over the past few days I have watched a handful of #DearME videos from inspirational women on YouTube and I wanted to share my advice to my younger self.

Before I get started let me tell you about the #DearMe Initiative:

Today is International Women’s Day! In celebration of International Women’s Day, YouTube started a #DearMe global Initiative to inspire and empower young girls everywhere. I’m all for women empowerment and inspiring girls so I knew this was an opportunity for me to share my #DearME advice. These are the things I would tell my younger self:

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DIY Whipped Shea Butter Mix


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It has been a brutal polar vortex winter. Between the extreme freezing temperatures, black ice and snow it has been crazy. I’m so over winter! I want spring now! Since it has been really cold I have to take extra steps so my hair and skin are moisturized. As you may know I have thick naturally curly hair and it is dry by nature so in the winter I like to amp up my hair moisture and sealing routine. Shea butter is the perfect sealant to use for thick hair and good to use all year around. Plus this is a great DIY for the weekend. :-)

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